Rest assured, friend: There is a purpose in everything you're going through. God loves you, right there in the middle of your pain.
"When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." -Isaiah 43:2 (NIV)
"As the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish, so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater, so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it." - Isaiah 55:10-11 NIV
Like our muscles, if we are inflexible in personality, we become stressed, rigid, tight, and our ability to react properly is compromised.