You can't force a relationship to grow any more than you can force a flower to bloom.
There will be times when you instantly know you must speak up. When you are unsure if you are supposed to share wisdom, give it to God. "Put it on the shelf" and pray, "God, what am I supposed to do with this?"
Do they deserve forgiveness? The world says no. God says do it anyway. God gave His only Son to die so that your sins would be forgiven. There's a catch, though: Matthew 6:14 points out that you must forgive in order to be forgiven.
"I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well." - 2 Timothy 1:5 (ESV)
"Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it." -Hebrews 13:1-2 NIV
I also thought about José's reply. It was obvious to me by the way José responded, that he had expected me to help him. José saw me as a part of the neighborhood, which meant that this problem was also my responsibility. I began to think about all the arenas of life where I should be taking more ownership.
We represent The Kingdom! We are God's reflection! Let's celebrate each other's beauty in a healthy way.