“She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” -Proverbs 31:26 NIV
We have all had those conversations. You vent and complain about some person or situation that has been driving you nuts. Your friend or family member may empathize with you, or even perhaps takes your side… but somehow you walk away feeling angrier than before! I say this lovingly, friend… that’s not helpful to either one of you. Essentially, you just emptied your dump-truck on that person and walked away.
But I experienced an amazing thing this week. A refreshing, “ah-ha!” moment where I paused and thought to myself, “Yes! This is it. This is what Godly female relationships and conversations are supposed to look like!” This is a shout-out to my “Power of a Praying Wife” small group:) One by one we shared what we were walking through, as the other women respectfully and lovingly called out the true enemy: Satan. Not our husbands. Not our family members. Not our co-workers. These women pointed each other to God’s Word: the Truth.
These women didn’t put the blame anywhere. They called out the lies, presented what Scripture says, and offered practical, Biblical guidance. There was no gossiping, trash-talking, nor husband-bashing. Rather a refreshing twist… the revelation that we can’t change anyone else. So let’s pray for God to change us! Let’s try to be better daughters, wives, friends, sisters… to be living testimonies. To shift the atmosphere. Let’s pray for our enemies and those who persecute us. Let’s walk in forgiveness. Let’s shake off the spirit of offense and division and seek unity. Let’s look different from society and “reality” TV.
“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” -1 Peter 3:1-2 NIV
I’m not telling you that we solved world hunger or that our marriages are now perfect. But these conversations were productive. The words were edifying, uplifting, seasoned with love, honor, respect, and pointed us where our eyes truly belong. That’s hard to do. The enemy loves to throw lies at us and try to get us warring with each other. But when you invite God into your conversation and let Him lead your heart, mind, will, and emotions… sometimes He will take your breath away.
I challenge you with this prayer that one of our group leaders so lovingly shared with us: “God, please change my heart. Help me to want the things that you want me to want, to think the thoughts you want me to think, and to feel the things you want me to feel.”
Thank you to my Godly sisters for being “Proverbs 31 Women.” Bless you, friends, in your marriages, and in your walk with Jesus.
Here’s to your health!