“For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.” -Psalm 193: 13-16 NIV
We have all been there at one point or another: Putting ourselves down. We have also been on the other end of a friend, co-worker, mother, sister, brother, spouse, child, or neighbor speaking negatively about themselves. It’s awkward. Your heart hurts for them, because they are viewing themselves through a distorted mirror. They are unable to see how God sees them. You want to lift them up, because you’re not sure if they just need affirmation, or if they truly believe those horrible things they say about themselves. But what do you say? How do you get through to them?
Well, let’s start with showing them the truth, as we see in Psalm 193:
God created you- your inmost being. God knit you together in your mother’s womb. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Everything God creates is perfect and wonderful, we know this full well, so that states the obvious- you are perfect in His sight! You are wonderful and beautiful! Even though you were made in “secret” where no human, not even a sonogram, could capture the miracle or your creation, this process was not hidden from God. He was part of every intricate detail. God wove you together and formed you from dust. God had already ordained your days, calling, purpose, and destiny before even one day came into existence!
Wow! That’s pretty amazing. That’s fabulously powerful. So, tell your friend or family member to think about what they are doing when they carelessly throw those insults around. They are actually insulting God. They are saying that what God created is not good enough, not attractive enough, or not smart enough. They are saying that what God created is not worthy enough for a mere human’s opinion.
Then, stop them in their tracks. Say, “Not in my presence. Not in my presence will you speak about my mother/brother/friend that way. Not in my presence will you insult God’s perfect and beautiful creation.” Put up a gate to self-sabotage, so that they know that negative self-talk is not welcome here. Sure it’s okay to have insecurities, and healthy conversations about areas that may need improvement. But try not to let someone tear themselves down. It’s not productive. It’s not pleasing to God.
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” –1 Thessalonians 5:11
Finally, build each other up. Try reading some scriptures of encouragement over your friend/family member. Click HERE for a few to start you off. Perhaps you could send them an encouraging word, quote, or song. Click HERE for “Burn Bright; You Were Made to Shine” by Natalie Grant, a video that may speak to them. Whatever your method, breathe life and positivity over them. Then pray for the Lord to give them His eyes to see, a fresh perspective, and new outlook. Then, give it over to Him, step aside…and let Him work. He created this person, so He knows exactly what to do:)
Thank you for joining us for Day 15 ‘in the life’ of our fast here at RISENfitness. We are learning how to set up a gate of “Not in my presence” right beside you:)
Here’s to your Health and 21 Day Fast!